Break Ups cont.

Relationships can be great, a tremendous learning experience! Most long term relationships involve each other meeting and forming a relationship with each others family. Typically meeting the family is an obstacle in the relationship not the attraction! When you date someone how many of us become emotionally involved with the family? Most of us do! So what happens after you get out of the relationship? When we break up with the one we once loved, do we break up with the family as well? "One thing about families is if no one is sorry to see you go, then your probably not coming back."

Break Ups

Are there really rules of the game? Is there really ten steps or rules to follow after a bad break up? I used to think there were, but as a seemingly punctual person running 20 minutes late for a lunch and the only legitimate excuse I had...I was lagging behind because I was mopping around because I haven't gotten over my X, as painful as that is to admit....I began to wonder how soon do you contact your X?....the typical 3 months, 6 months or one year? Others say never! Change your phone number, email delet them off of Facebook etc......As I was going through some old pictures on my computer to update my social media pictures I ran across a picture of my X and I and at that very moment I paused and thought to myself...I thought I had destroyed all of the evidence. It was then when I decided to create my own rule! Destroy all pictures where you both look happy....because those days are over.....right? Or maybe there not?!? Is it time to call? Or is it to soon?

An old friend

For those that know me and know me well, know the strong emphasis I put on friendships. Friends are very important to me and are viewed as an extension to my family! My closest friends know this the best as they are often included in familial discussions at my home and know everything there is to know about who I am as a person. Recently through Facebook I became reacquainted with an old friend from the 6th grade. The two of us were pretty good friends back in elementary school and had a lot in common....well as much in common as two privileged Northern Virginia children. Ten years and some change later its surprising how many things don't change. It is however even more surprising on how much has changed. You see I am not the same privileged child I once was. I don't put as much emphasis on the car I drive the house I live in or the money I have in the bank. The clothes I wear don't matter as much anymore. What I value most is my relationship with my wonderful family and friends. Spending time with those who have lost so much hope and teaching them the sky is the limit. The lasting relationships I have formed with some of my residents being an RA have had such a positive impact on my life! My friend is still very much the same, its all about money cars and clothes and I think his expectation in fact I can tell he is thinking I am the same person and its been very difficult demonstrating that the material is not whats important to me anymore! My question to the readers is do you think its possible for old friends to become good friends again despite different values?