Break Ups

Are there really rules of the game? Is there really ten steps or rules to follow after a bad break up? I used to think there were, but as a seemingly punctual person running 20 minutes late for a lunch and the only legitimate excuse I had...I was lagging behind because I was mopping around because I haven't gotten over my X, as painful as that is to admit....I began to wonder how soon do you contact your X?....the typical 3 months, 6 months or one year? Others say never! Change your phone number, email delet them off of Facebook etc......As I was going through some old pictures on my computer to update my social media pictures I ran across a picture of my X and I and at that very moment I paused and thought to myself...I thought I had destroyed all of the evidence. It was then when I decided to create my own rule! Destroy all pictures where you both look happy....because those days are over.....right? Or maybe there not?!? Is it time to call? Or is it to soon?